Given that I’m an adult and have to be responsible all of a sudden, I keep getting asked the simple easy question “So what are you going to do after uni?” Yeah it’s a lot and no it’s not simple or easy. I barely know what I’m having for dinner next week let alone what area of work I’ll eventually slip into. I get asked about internships and placements and possible years off travelling which is unsettling. The concept is still a little scary for me, realising that there is in fact patience and hard work behind the pay slips (ok I knew that anyway but still).
However, being asked if I wanted to do a year of travelling after uni, reminded me of a very interesting conversation that I had with a fellow student last summer at a Spanish festival right after Years and Years had been on. This guy was telling me all about his gap year which he’d just done and how he was starting uni in September. He then asked me if I had done a gap year. I said no and he asked “Why not?” and I said “Well I just wanted to start uni really.” From that he seemed to fall into a passionate speech “No no you’ve got to travel, you’ve got to find yourself. It’s truly amazing and so important. Everyone must do it.” Funnily I don’t remember his name but I remember what he said very clearly. He was as confident in gap years as I’m confident in making Oreo brownies, and that’s a lot!
Now as I didn’t do a gap year I can’t really argue with him. I’m sure it’s an amazing experience and that everyone who did one thought it was remarkable. It had appealed to me, but I was too desperate to find out how cheap Birmingham alcohol was. Also I worried that taking a year off would bring out a very lazy side of me. I can be pretty lazy at uni anyway.
Although I’m sure travelling is worth the hype that it is given, I didn’t entirely agree with the bold statements made by, erm, oh come on what was his name? Travelling being amazing? Definitely. Important? Hmm, bit a stretch don’t you think. I mean if travelling was free you’d probably never see me again, but it’s not. And there are things arguably more important like a getting a place to live, books for studying, or a round of jager bombs and an Uber for afterwards. No point in saying that everyone must do it when not everyone can, and lots probably don’t want to. Just going to uni is pretty nerve wracking, but at least it offered lots of support, easy access to Tescos and a fully functioning GP.
And finding myself? Bit of a therapy question, but is it supposed to matter where you are? Isn’t it better to create yourself rather than find? I mean, I find myself at home, through doing things that I love, through the people that I love and the way they make me feel. Through unexpected events and dramatic changes that make me realise what are the most important things in life. And in the meantime I’m not actively finding myself because I know who I am, and I don’t have to travel to some exotic country for months to know that.
Maybe I’ll go travelling after uni, or maybe I’ll have too much going on at home. If you think that travelling is all you want to do then of course go do it, but if not that’s fine too. What’s important is to keep doing what you love whatever it may be, even if it does end up draining your bank account like a plug because somehow jager tastes that good.
Have a great week xx